A New Kind of Love
Laura Kigweba & Tamika Jancewicz
Day 1 (from both of us): Start with Who You Are...
Song of Solomon 1:5 (CEB)
“Dark am I, and lovely, daughters of Jerusalem—
like the black tents of the Kedar nomads,
like the curtains of Solomon’s palace.”
I, Laura, love the song by India Arie, Private Party. This song is all about loving and celebrating yourself and when the Shulamite woman shares these words, I just imagine her singing these lyrics to herself:
🎵I'm gonna take off all my clothes
Look at myself in the mirror
We're gonna have a conversation
We're gonna heal the disconnection
I don't remember when it started
But this is where it's gonna end
My body is beautiful and sacred
And I'm gonna celebrate it 🎵
It took me (Tamika) a long time to be comfortable in my own skin. It is dark and lovely, but I didn’t always see it that way. Growing up I remember being compared to my lighter-complected sister and always wishing I looked a little more like her. It takes a lot to get over such internalized oppressions about who we are. And it sucks that it’s even a thing, really. But it is a thing for many of us.
So let me ask you a question. Do you see yourself as worthy of celebrating? If not, let’s start there. Today, we want you to write down who you are. Take a look in the mirror and explore you. What is it that makes you feel lovely? What is it that makes you feel free? Like our protagonist, the Shulamite woman, if you were to describe yourself in one word, what would it be?
Did you know that G-d celebrates and delights in you as well? Yes... you! You were made in her image after all. So after you write down who you are and how you would describe yourself—celebrate. We mean it, friend! Turn on your favorite song and dance. Move your body and feel what it feels like to be you. All of you. And come back to this list often to remember who you are and how G-d sees you.